He’s dying to read this article, but he would never let you catch him
doing it, and he certainly won’t admit to wanting to know if his deep,
dark secrets are hanging out like underwear on a clothesline. In the
front yard. In the middle of a busy city. (Hah!)
He will never tell you any of this.
In fact, he’s dying to read this article, but he would never let you
catch him doing it, and he certainly won’t admit to wanting to know if
his deep, dark secrets are hanging out like underwear on a clothesline.
In the front yard. In the middle of a busy city. (Hah!)
Well, he won’t tell you, but I will.
But first, two warnings:
First, this isn’t a complete list. Of course! But I think these are the two biggest ones. (I’m working on more articles about a few of the others…)
Second, I’m not telling you so you can shame him.
I’m doing this so you can help him. But you have to be sneaky, so that
he doesn’t know. Be nice to your man – he worships the ground you walk
on, and believe me, he knows a few of your dirty dark secrets, too.
On to the juice, shall we?
GUY FEAR #1: My sexual desires are NOT okay
I won’t tell you that old thing about how guys want waaay more sex
that women do, because it’s actually not true. Women want it, we just
want it under different terms. He just… wants it. Every possible way he
can imagine it. With your sister, your mom, the librarian (
definitely
the librarian), the teenager snapping her gum behind the cash register.
He’s even had a dirty fantasy about that weird shopping cart lady.
Sex movies of every description (multiple lovers, bondage, fetish,
you name it) run in his brain nearly all the time, and sometimes what’s
showing on the screen shocks even him.
Deep down, he’s terrified that he wants sex too much, or in the wrong
ways, with the wrong people. His sex drive is a formidable machine, and
it’s a testament to his power that he doesn’t let it drive his
life, only his brain.
What YOU can do to help him
Creating an atmosphere of openness in your intimate life with him is
the first step in making him feel less scared about his sexual desire.
I’m not saying you have to DO everything that he THINKS about, but be
willing to ask him to talk about his fantasies. Invite him to give you
steamy details. Even the act of sharing can be a tremendous gift of
sexual energy between the two of you.
Help him learn to make YOU the star of his sexual mind shows, even if all you do is tell him a dirty story during foreplay.
And finally, don’t forget to let him know you’re sexually satisfied!
If you can do this, he’s going to become so riveted by you he’ll never
want to let you go. EVERY man wants to know he can sexually satisfy a
woman.
GUY FEAR #2: Other men will think I’m weak
You gotta feel for the men of our world. They’re expected to get a
respectable paycheck, make us feel secure, (not think about sex so
much), beat out the other guys, support the winning team, be tough,
overcome all the obstacles in their way, scare away the bad guys, and
never show fatigue, fear, or
ANYthing except sheer strength and confidence.
It’s a lot to live up to.
It’s impossible to live up to, actually.
And yet that’s the challenge they hear every single day. And if they
don’t answer it – actually DOMINATE it – their fear is that they will be
publicly shamed, humiliated, despised… Not so much by you or by other
women (although they hate the idea of that, too), but by other MEN.
But that doesn’t mean YOU don’t have power. Every man wants a woman
who is unreservedly, whole-heartedly ON HIS SIDE. Your support actually
adds to his power in the world of other men.
What YOU can do to help him
I have a question for you: if he’s fighting away on the field of his
life, do you ever even show up at his game? And if you do, can he hear
your enthusiastic, genuine support for him?
I’m not saying you have to actually get out your cheerleader skirt
and shimmy and shout (although he’ll probably appreciate that, see #1
above!), but there IS a way to let him know you’re seeing how hard he
works, and you want him to win.
Encourage him to tell you about his daily battles. Lean in and
attentively soak up every bit. Ask for details. Don’t multitask while
you’re doing this; give him your full focus. Be his raving fan.
And offer him your sincere admiration. Let him know how strong you
find him, how amazing his accomplishments and abilities are. If you can
make him feel like you believe in him and are on his side no matter
what, you are going to ADDICT him to you.
3 Steps to Make a Man Love You
If you’re sick of “Bad Boys,” “Players” and guys who just won’t
commit, you need to go watch this new video renowned relationship expert
Michael Fiore put up. It’s called “3 Steps To Make A Man Love You” and
it teaches you how to make a man not just “fall” for a you… But to
actually make him obsessed with you so HE decides he WANTS to be
serious…
–> Make him powerfully addicted (in a really good way) to you!
Michael lays out the absolute truth about what men really want and
need from a woman for them to be able to give EVERYTHING to her… (In
fact, he flat out tells you how his girlfriend Captured His Heart and
made him fall for her HARD even though he was “playing the field” and
thought he’d never settle down.)